A Healthier Use For Fear
What would happen if you gave yourself permission to fail? Would you take more chances? Would you get ballsy and work toward a big dream?
Oftentimes, we're so afraid of failing that we keep ourselves from taking risks. Anxiety sets in and we talk ourselves out of it. Maybe we stop planning that new book because the topic is a difficult one and we're worried about how people will receive it. Or maybe we play it safe (or small) because we don't want to get hurt. We tell ourselves things like, "Oh, I could never do that" or "That would never work out" or "That will never work out for me".
I wish we could see the devastating impact fear has on our lives. What will we be missing out on by not taking that risk? Who will not be able to benefit from our work? If we never work toward our big dreams, who really loses out?
For a lot of people, taking a trip to Alaska is a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity. It's right up there with places like Hawaii, Bora Bora, and Belize. And for some of us, it's a place that is never quite reachable. At least that's what we believe. I used to think that, too. Who would have ever thought I'd be living it up in the big ole state of Alaska? You're probably wondering how my husband managed to convince me to make the move. 🙂
When people say that they've always wanted to visit a particular place but that it would never happen, they're revealing their beliefs.
What would happen if we started challenging those beliefs? I bet a lot of people would be living a more passion-filled life if they started questioning the status quo!
The thing is, our society is so caught up in instant gratification that it doesn't matter how much money they make, they'll still be broke. I know how easy it is to increase the outgo when the income increases. But once we're done splurging on all of those things we've been deprived of our whole life, it's time to take back the reins. It's time to sit back down and figure out what we really want out of life. If you don't get control of the spending now, you'll always feel broke and unable to take the trip of your dreams.
But dream vacationing…that's not what this article is about. It's about beliefs. Challenging those beliefs. Living with purpose and passion. Letting go of the fear.
We'll never know what is possible if we fail to take chances. If you want to be afraid of failure, be afraid of failing to take chances. Be afraid of failing to recognize and acknowledge all of the great things you've been given. Be afraid of failing to receive blessings. Be afraid of failing to embrace challenges and difficult times because those challenges and difficult times are what build character and create the person you are today.
You choose. What do you want to be afraid of?
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