What Do You See In Your Window?

What Do You See In Your Window?

What Do You See In Your Window? Imagine you are standing in front of a large picture window. It's early in the morning but still dark outside. The blinds are up. And there's a bright light shining in the room. What do you see when you look at the window? You see yourself standing in the room. You also see everything else inside the room. Maybe you see dishes piling up on the counter or heaps of paperwork on your desk or clutter everywhere. Maybe you even see trash or discarded papers collecting in a corner. Or if you're a great housekeeper, you see everything in its proper place. Imagine that you can even see the dark blue of the outdoors. But that's it. Now, imagine the light is turned off. What do you see? Ah! Everything behind you goes away and you can see outside now. Not just the dark blue you saw before, but now more colors have taken shape. When the light...
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This Little Thing Called Frustration

This Little Thing Called Frustration

This Little Thing Called Frustration Frustration is what comes instantly to mind when I think about failure. Early this week I talked about fear of failure. About how we get to choose how we use our fear of failure, and for this article, I wanted to share thoughts on a sister of failure: frustration. When we're not experiencing the progress we long for or when things aren't going as well as we had hoped, frustration rears its ugly head. If it gets a foothold, frustration can snowball into overwhelm, despair, hopelessness, and depression. I experienced this chain of emotions in the fall of 2009. My business had come to a screeching halt about four months earlier and over the summer I didn't see any progress. It felt like no matter what I did, I couldn't get it back off the ground. I felt frustration, overwhelm at being so far behind my goals, and then despair and hopelessness because I couldn't see the light...
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Learning to Call It Good Enough So You Can Grow As a Writer

Learning to Call It Good Enough So You Can Grow As a Writer

Learning to Call It Good Enough So You Can Grow As a Writer Writers are notorious for not knowing when to stop. We can keep revising and revising for years, never getting to that point where we know for sure that our work is perfect. There comes a point, however, where we must realize that we might never get to that point of knowing. Writing isn't rocket science. We don't enter a few formulas and come out with the right product. We write based on what we know, feel, and believe. We study the craft to learn the ropes and we practice to exercise our writing muscles.  For beginning writers, the point where they know their work is perfect just doesn't happen. They might think their work is perfect, but they don't know that it is. In fact, most beginning writers need more practice. Even writers with twenty years under their belts never really know if their work is perfect. I don't think "perfect" in writing even exists. Perfect...
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