Do People Say Your Priorities Are Out of Whack & You Need to Change?

Do People Say Your Priorities Are Out of Whack & You Need to Change?
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Do People Say Your Priorities Are Out of Whack & You Need to Change?

Does it seem like every time you get focused on your work and ready to take on your goals, someone (usually a close family member) tells you that you are selfish or that your priorities are out of whack?

Over the past few years, this has happened to me quite a bit. I finally get past my own self-doubt and resistance, get a little motivated to put in extra hours on my work, only to get dragged out of my euphoric state by someone who thinks my priorities are all wrong.

I believe life is about using our talents and abilities for the glory of God. Each of us has a purpose in God's plan.

Certain people, however, will try to tell you what your purpose is or tell you what your priorities should be. Some even pass judgments if your goals and activities do not align with theirs.

In our small group earlier this week, one of my friends brought up the point that God has a different plan for each of us. She was talking about how people often question them on the causes that they support, especially their support of Hungary when there are so many places here in the states to donate to. People tend to expect others to care about the same things that they do. But we each have our opinions and things that we are passionate about.

We're all guilty, from time to time, of having our own ideas of how a person should live his life. But that isn't our role. Our role is to send our focus inward to get to know ourselves and to continually grow into the person God meant for us to be.

If you are looking outside of yourself and God for happiness and fulfillment, you're looking in the wrong place.

The last couple of months, I've been working hard to avoid making judgments and I have asked God to help me in this area. I'm not perfect. Over the years, I have tried to focus on appreciating others for who they are and not for what they have or will do for me. I have put my focus on God and working on my life's purpose for fulfillment. Happiness does not come from others; it comes from within and from God.

Your purpose isn't what other people tell you your purpose is – it's what you feel in your gut is your purpose. What is it that you love to do? What is that thing that you feel compelled to do? What is it that you would do if money were no object?

It isn't anyone's job to point out your flaws or what *they* think is wrong with you. What people say about you tells you what areas they, themselves, need to work on. No one can tell you what you should or shouldn't be doing. Only you can tell yourself that.

Every day, remind yourself to turn inward, to focus on your own strengths and weaknesses and to work on improvements. Ask God to remove all judgments from within you and to give you clarity on your purpose. Then work on the things that are important to you and let the opinions of others have no hold on you.

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