What to Do When You Have Trouble Pleasing Everyone

What to Do When You Have Trouble Pleasing Everyone

What to Do When You Have Trouble Pleasing Everyone
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What to Do When You Have Trouble Pleasing Everyone

Do you have trouble pleasing everyone? Does it bother you when people ask you a question or ask for your input and then they don't say thanks or even acknowledge the help? You try to help someone out, but then you never hear from them again. What's up with that?

That happened to me twice the other week. Did I say something wrong? Did I rub them the wrong way? I'll probably never know. And if it happens to you, you may never find out either.

But as they say, the show must go on.

It would be nice if we could please everyone, but unfortunately, pleasing everyone is virtually impossible. There will be people you can't please, no matter what you do. You just have to shrug it off and focus on being you.

In fiction writing, everything has to make sense – there has to be a great reason for why a character behaves a certain way. But in real life, a person's reasoning for a particular behavior or response doesn't have to make sense. People can be fickle. They can stop liking someone simply because they no longer want to.

There will be people we just don't bond with, people we are unable to connect with. Maybe we share different values or have different priorities. Or maybe we don't seem to have anything in common.

I'm not an expert on building connections with people, and I'm not an outgoing introvert. But the more I learn, the more I understand that it's really our true selves that we need to be. If we focus on being the people we were designed to be (our true selves), we'll attract the right people to us.

There are other weirdos out there who match our kind of weirdness. So, while we can't please everyone, we need to remember that there are, in fact, people we can please and people with whom we can connect. Don't set your mind on the select few you can't seem to please, but instead, focus on finding those people who are pleased with who you are.

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